Thursday, June 6, 2013

Wayne W. Dyer Ph.D

This is the second in the 'tribute series' of modern thinkers, whose Books and talks has helped in the journey of personal transformation and understanding of human nature.

Short Introduction:
Dr. Wayne Dyer is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self development. He is the author of over 30 Books, and has created many audio/ video programs, and has appeared in numerous television and radio shows. He is affectionately called the ' father of motivation'.

He overcame the adversity of growing up in foster homes to become an internationally renowned author and speaker, in the field of personal development.

First Book published in 1976.


Begin to see your self as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul. 

Our intentions create our reality. 

A true barometer of intelligence is an effective , happy life lived each day and each present moment of each day. 

Disagreements, conflicts and compromises, are a part of what it means to be human. Similarly money, growing old, sickness, death, natural disasters etc: 
But some people are able to avoid immobilization, dejection and unhappiness despite such occurrences  while others collapse, become inert or have nervous breakdowns.

Being healthy is a natural state, and this means, achieving it are within the grasp of each one of us. I believe that judicious mixture of hard work, clear thinking, humor and self confidence are the ingredients of effective living. 

Turning your NOW into total fulfillment  is the touch stone of effective living and virtually all self defeating behavior ( erroneous zones) are efforts at living in a moment than the current one. 

You must trust in your own ability to feel emotionally, whatever you choose to feel at any time of your life. This is a radical notion. 

Feelings are not just emotions that happen to you. Feelings are reactions you choose to have.  If you are in charge of your emotions, you don't have to choose self defeating reactions. 


Say to your self : I am here on purpose, I can accomplish anything I desire, and I do it by being in harmony with all pervading creative force in the Universe.

Make your self available for success, and know and trust in the invisible force that's all providing. 

Remind your self to be kind towards your self in all choices you make about your daily life. 

Remember that every single modern advancement you see and take for  granted was created by some one contemplating what they intended  to manifest.

Place positive affirmations in strategic places, where you'll notice and read them. 

Kindness extended, received or observed beneficially impacts physical health and feelings of everyone involved. 

Quietly retreat from loud, bellicose, opinionated people. Send them a silent blessing and then unobtrusively move along. 

When you are in a middle of an argument, ask your self - Do I want to be right or be happy ?  When you choose the joyous, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intentions is strengthened.  

Feeling abundant, surpasses the money in your Bank account and transcends what others may think of you. 

View obstacles as opportunities to circulate the power of your unbending intent. Unbending means just what it says. Intend to stay connected to the Source and thereby gain power form the Source. This means, being at peace, detaching your self from the circumstances, and seeing your self as an observer rather than a victim - than turning it all over to your Source and knowing that you you'll receive the guidance and assistance you require.  ( In our Deen - one word to summarize the above TAWAKKUL)

Being in a state of gratitude actually creates magnetism, and good flows in to your life. In contrast, a state of ingratitude, stops the flow of abundance and health. 

People who receive the most approval, are unconcerned about it. So if you really want approval, stop thinking about your self, and focus on reaching out and helping others. 

Seven steps for overcoming Ego's Hold on you. 

1. Stop being offended - that which offends you weakens you. 
2. Let go your need to win - Ego loves to divide us into winners and losers. 
3. Let go your need to be right - ask your self, do I want to be right or happy. 
4. Let go your need to be superior - we all emanate from the same creative life force. 
5. Let go your need to have more -  Ego is never satisfied, you'll find your self in a perpetual state of striving. 
6. Let go identifying your self on basis of your achievement - a difficult concept to implement. Your Ego will be up in arms, but try always to be tuned to this idea that everything comes from the Source (ALLAH)
7. Let go your reputation - your reputation is not located in you. It resides in the minds of others, so you have no control over it. 



A young woman complained to her mother about hardships and difficulties in her life. She didn't know how she was going to continue and wanted to give up. The young woman said : " I am tired of fighting and struggling. It seems that as soon as one problem is solved, a new one appears." In responce, the mother took her to the kitchen and filled three pots with water, placing each one on the stove over a high flame. 

Soon the water came to boil. In the first pot she placed carrots, in the second eggs, and in the third, she placed grounded coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about 20 minutes, she turned off the burners. The mother than took out the carrots and placed them in a bowl. She did the same with the eggs and the coffee. Turning to her daughter, she said: ' Tell me what you see." 

"Carrots, eggs and coffee" the daughter replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take the egg and break it. After peeling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich flavor. 

The daughter than asked, " What does it mean, Mother ?"

Her mother explained that each of these items had faced the same adversity - boiling water, and each had reacted differently. The carrot went in strong , hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile, its thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior, but after the boiling water, its inside became hardened. But the grounded coffee beans were unique - after they were in the boiling water, they'd changed the water itself. 

The message ? Stay in Spirit and change adversity into a component of a new, great, and wonderful world, just as the coffee did. 

Wishing you a happy journey of personal transformation.